This week was the first day back at school and to be honest I felt anxious about returning - just as I had felt when I was a teenager! But thankfully, the day before school started I was lucky enough to attend an inspirational presentation called the Art Of Brilliance by a Life Coach and entrepreneur Errol Lawson.
Errol mentioned really valid points in his presentation:
Some people just choose to stop developing or forget how to.
People get stuck, and forget how to grow. But the important thing to remember is that it is our own choice to do so!
My favorite quote of the day was:
If it's meant to be, it's up to me!
I couldn't relate and couldn't agree with this more! As Errol said, we need to take 100% responsibility of our actions, our reactions, our goals, our lives!
I personally found school very challenging, I was a hardworking child (A*'s for effort), but my results from exams always told me I was stupid! This was magnified in my social circles, as I was known in my friendship group for saying silly things, generally because I spoke out loud before I thought about what I was saying - my nickname was RoDuns (a combination of my first and last name).
"You will not always be the smartest person in the room, and you will not always be the strongest or the funniest or the most talented. But you can always be brave and you can always be kind, and these are the things you should be every minute of every day for the rest of your life. Because yes, those other things, they're great things. But these things are better." Art Of Brilliance social media quote.
Eventually I genuinely believed I was stupid and I became very quiet: I was a shy girl for a long time; I was a very good listener that hated the sound of my own voice and to top it off I had braces for the majority of high school, so basically tried hard not to ever open my mouth! In fact, even my dentist called me an Ugly Duckling...
I dreaded the moments the school teacher would ask me to read a paragraph to the class, or answer a question because I wasn't putting my hand up. Even when I did know the answer, I convinced myself I would be wrong, and sighed inside each time my answer matched another peers, but I could never pluck up the duckling courage to just raise my arm!
Yet somehow, during the same period of my life, I performed and danced in front of thousands of people, places like Disney Land Paris and the Royal Albert Hall! I expressed myself emotionally and physically. But, I knew that with my dream and goal (since the age of 8 years old) was to be a professional dancer, the industry I wanted to be apart of was ruthless and people were loud and confident. I knew that to achieve this I had to build my own confidence and 'come out of my shell'. One thing I certainly did have was determination and the belief that dreams can come true! I believed in fairytales, always have and always will!
So, what did I do to help myself? I purposely took drama GCSE and found a local singing teacher, to help me battle the triple threat that was growing in the industry. It ended up being a lot more than just singing lessons, not only did I grow as an artist, but also as a person: I attended the Harmony School where I was inspired by the amazing coach, principle and founder of the school Jayl De Lara, who I am now privileged to also call a dear friend. It was with his encouragement as a positive role model, where I found the strength and belief in myself as a true artist and to continue the path to follow my dreams, but also release Roanna! Together we worked on projects such as The Source of Life and various music videos.
Errol talked about being around positive people with good energy who can benefit your life. Whereas Mood hoovers (as named in the presentation) can literally suck the life out of you and stop you from achieving your goals! I was lucky at the age of 17 to meet Jayl, as he inspired every aspect of my life with the aim to spread harmony in the world and keep ‘your life in tune’. I will never forget the day he told me to imagine my life like a movie, from that day on I starred in it!! I am forever grateful...
With this positive engagement in my life I was able to gain the confidence to fulfill my dreams and perform, model, talk to the general public, travel the world, communicate in relationships.... and so so much more. I never thought I could write, I laughed at the concept of me writing a blog... yet here I am and here you are reading it! :) #thankyou
Life doesn't have to be perfect to be wonderful!
We can choose excuses or success in life.
Of course we are human and the reality is life is hard! Nevertheless we do have the ability to bounceback, to stand back up, even with a broken leg, or a broken heart and reach for the stars!
I had been doubting myself recently about a particular target I have given myself, and Errol reminded me that of course I can achieve it, it's just up to me to do so!
Errol also reminded me how much I love working with children; inspiring their lives for the better and encouraging them to believe in their potential in education, but also how to live balanced, happy and healthy lives!
Reflecting on my journey above, I remember how truly important it is to have those positive role models from a young age, who can potentially change your life! I feel privileged to be in that position.
His presentation also made me think about RoEco Fashion - How my experience and my bounceback ability enabled me to create this, and how I can use this platform to reach out to help people think about their daily decisions and trends they are following!
On their social media they mentions that "Trends are for suckers". Errol gave an example in the presentation, such as the trend of hating Mondays! "You spend a 7th of your life on Mondays, that's way too many to spend being miserable". It is so true! It's time to stop following the crowd, Monday is the start of a new week (in our made up world), it should be celebrated as an exciting day! It's time to stop following trends and what some people are taught to believe. If you're going to follow a trend, at least let it be a great one, that will actually have a positive effect on your mood or behavior!
Errol asked us to use a scale of 1-10 to put things into perspective. How bad is this moment, really? Is it the end of the world? How do I want to react vs how should I react! In relation to RoEco Fashion either a light bulb flickered, or this hit a nerve... some people get so stressed about what to wear on a daily basis to look in fashion - it can cause a lot of stress, anxiety, self indulgence, obsession and waste a lot of time. On the scale of 1-10 it can be momentarily rather high up on the scale! Yet, when it comes down to the reality of fashion, no, your world is not going to end just because you don't know what top to wear, but yes in fact the world is going to end, if we keep up with the so called fast fashion trends. Meanwhile yes, other peoples and animals lives are ending! That is the reality! #sadface
Lets not stress over the little things, let's look at the bigger picture. We can't keep waiting to be the good person we want to be, we can't keep waiting for change to happen, we can't keep waiting for the world to become a healthier environment - We need to make conscious decisions now, we need to think about our actions now, we need to be good humans now, we need to respect other humans and animals and the planet now!
Lets all be...